With last-minute Christmas procuring underway, mother and father have one query: Ought to grownup kids nonetheless be spoiled?

“At what age did you guys begin slowing down on Christmas presents for them?” influencers Nikki Tomczak and her husband Marty requested fellow mother and father on TikTok.

For years, the Tomczaks have showered their kids — ages 29, 23, and 22  — with the whole lot from toys once they have been toddlers to mature family requirements as they’ve gotten older. They’ve even financed unrelated bills like mortgage funds, engagement events, hospital stays, child showers, and nurseries for them.

Nonetheless, including a son-in-law, daughter-in-law, and grandchildren to the combination, has difficult issues. Now, Nikki and Marty are questioning if it’s possible to proceed the custom of getting a number of presents for every of their three youngsters.

Of their video posted on December 10, the Tomczaks stated this yr the household has determined to do a Secret Santa swap, which means every particular person has been assigned one different particular person to purchase a gift for with out them figuring out. On this case, Secret Santa is in lieu of typical gift-giving, the place everybody has to get everybody one thing.

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“So, we’re solely going to be shopping for for the little youngsters,” Nikki defined. “After which we’re solely going to be shopping for for one grownup every which implies we’re not going to be shopping for for all of our youngsters for the primary time.

“I’ll admit we’ve been serving to with some huge issues the final couple of years,” she continued. “Nevertheless it feels tremendous bizarre to not be shopping for for every one of many youngsters. It makes me actually joyful to see them open, , 10 issues every. I really like to purchase them issues, however how lengthy can I actually proceed to do that?”

Marty chimed in: “I say f*** these youngsters. I don’t even know what the hell they’re getting, anyhow.”

The Tomczaks query prompted widespread debate, with many mother and father speeding so as to add their two cents on the subject. Most viewers admitted they both began scaling again when their youngsters hit 18, substituted presents for household journeys when their kids grew to become adults, or have by no means stopped spoiling them.

“I’ll purchase for my youngsters until they die,” a passionate mother commented, whereas one other disagreed: “We stopped final yr at 25-23-20. The older two are married. We began paying for a household trip for all as an alternative of shopping for Christmas and birthday presents. Reminiscences are priceless!”

A 3rd stated: “I simply give my youngsters 500 every. They’re 25 and 28, each in faculty.”

“My mother nonetheless provides us presents and stockings at 53, 50, and 48. We’re all very independent however it makes her joyful,” another person admitted.

In the meantime, one particular person famous: “We purchase for everybody lower than 18. as soon as they flip 18 we do a Secret Santa. IT is simply too costly as soon as the household grows. I’ve 6 youngsters, 4 SIL, 1 DIL, 15 grands, and 5 nice grands.”

Talking with At this time, Nikki confessed she’d in all probability by no means cease shopping for presents for her kids. In reality, her youngest, who has particular wants and nonetheless believes in Santa Claus, all the time receives a number of presents from everybody within the household.

“These are my youngsters for all times and I’ll all the time have one thing for them,” she stated. “I simply don’t know if it must be the identical because it was once they have been kids … at what age do you discover the stability?”

In line with Nikki, this yr’s Secret Santa is an effective jumping-off level for future Christmas celebrations on the Tomczaks.

“They have been onto one thing — can I actually be doing big, large Christmases ceaselessly?” she questioned.